My guess is you are here because things feel hard at home. There are lots of places relationships get stuck: too much fighting, being isolated from one another, feeling like you never do anything right with your partner, wanting your partner to buy in more, needing space, or needing less space and more connection. Wouldn’t it be nice to feel like things were working again? Whether you are in a couple that wants to get back to the way you were, or whether you are an individual trying to assess (or make sense of) what has happened and where to go next, relational therapy can help.

What is Relational Therapy?

Relational Therapy has 5 major components:

  1. We all need love and belonging at home. It helps us feel safe. It allows for full expression of our character and personality, It paradoxically enables us to go out into the world independently and make mistakes, knowing someone will be there if we fail.
  2. When relationships are good we feel loved and accepted just as we are. Couple’s Counseling and Relationship Therapy are intended to give you tools for understanding what you need and how to ask for it. They also help you interpret what your partner needs from you.
  3. By and large, no one teaches us to be relational. Understanding what we need, communicating those needs, and meeting the needs of a partner are all part of being in a relationship. This set of skills requires upkeep and attention.
  4. Relational Therapy is a hands-on approach that teaches how we communicate, gives you a chance to practice with your partner, and then allows you to try out new behaviors home. Your relationship should start feeling better with only a few weeks of practice.
  5. Relational work can be done a variety of ways: in Couple’s Counseling with your partner, on your own as you sort through what you want and need from your relationship, or sometimes by looking at your past relationships (especially the relationships of your family-of-origin) and healing some of the old wounds. When you have not gotten your needs met in the past it often shows up in the present. Sorting this out can significantly help you meet your partner more effectively in the present.

Laura Zwisler

I practice existential therapy. This consists of identifying dilemmas at the core of the human experience. Only when we live in alignment with our values and our true selves can we hope to feel balanced and fulfilled.

My style of therapy is intended to mirror the need I see in you. Some moments call for gentle understanding, others for bravely facing challenges.  My own humanity often enters the room, as does humor, insight and genuine care for you and your human journey.

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